HERE'S HOW TO ELIMINATE
AWKWARD PAUSES, ONCE AND
FOR ALL:
It's a technique I call "threading",
because I'll show you how to 'weave'
a conversation out of topical threads,
like a well-knit shirt or sweater.
(I go into much, much great detail
in both The Attraction Code and
Conversation Cure, as well)
STEP ONE: Talk about something.
Anything.
This is the easy part.
STEP TWO: Notice the "threads" in
your conversation.
Sounds tough, but it's really easy.
Let me explain:
In the sentence: "I was a real tech
geek in high school" there are
3 or 4 good threads.
Do you see them? Here, let me
help you out:
"I was" - Your past, things that
happened in the past
"Tech geek" - People you know
who are good with computers,
or your past, embarrassing
experiences
"High school" - Your high school
life, or people you knew in
high school
All threading is, is noticing
these topics and then saying
something about them.
For example, if she says:
"I love reading Cosmo magazine,
especially the sex articles"
... Not only have you scored
a home-run ;-)...
... Also, ALL of the following
sentences would be GREAT, SMOOTH
replies to her:
"Men's Health has got to be my
favorite magazine because it mixes
workouts, fashion and lifestyle"
"I tried reading Cosmo once and
I got sucked in by the stories.
Do you girls REALLY think like
that? It was nuts!"
"My friend told me about this
great 'sex techniques' book,
and I thought he was crazy.
But I got curious and picked
it up, and it's changed my
entire sex life for the
better"
...
... So Threading - and eliminating
awkward pauses, once and for all -
Is simply:
STEP ONE: She says something
STEP TWO: You notice the threads
STEP THREE: You pick one, and
respond
Easy as pie :-)
